Self care in grief/loss

I have been trying to fast forward my grieving process, but I realised that I can't just short circuit it. I have recognise the need to be gentle to myself and allow the healing to slowly take place in its own time.

My group came up with some useful self care in grief/loss during our brainstorming session and I would like to share them here to anyone who is dealing with grief/loss, eg. family members (parents, children, relatives etc), love, friends, wealth, health, body parts, personality/ability (confidence, motivation, innocence, identity, courage, trust, faith, freedom, hope etc.)

• Experience/Express what you are feeling in the early days alone or with others; get angry, have a cry etc. ; immediately is best, allowing it, not suppressing.
• Be around family/friends that care and talk about your loss - say the name.
• Allow people to give you support. No-one else knows exactly how you feel, but many people have lost, and have support to give.
• Read self-help books.
• Don't expect yourself to "get over it" too quickly. The grieving process takes time.
• Just be and stay with emotions long enough to let them shift.
• It is normal for people in grief to experience physical symptoms of distress - headaches, nausea, various pains and aches, insomnia, etc.
• Avoid making major decisions while you are grieving. If it is absolutely unavoidable, seek the wisdom of a trusted friend to help you.
• Write key messages/inspirations down and leaving them in obvious places.
• Don't hide reminders of your loss - photos, favourite records, etc. The pain they cause can help you express your emotions and thus bring some relief.
• Blog to the whole world.
• Pamper yourself: hot baths, massage, retail therapy, indulgences etc.
• Be kind to yourself, and remind yourself not to be harsh or beat self up
• Ask for hugs/affection.
• Make a conscious choice not to think about the problem for a while, such as take a grief holiday, get away from normal environment etc.
• Do not cut yourself off from your usual activities for too long. This will only add to your loss.
• If there are children involved, encourage them to share in expression of grief.
• Honour your emotions: its okay to feel that way.
• Meditate on inner peace/calmness – pray for self and others.
• Visualise the person surrounded in love, or visualise a happy time with them.
• Recognise that grief may come flooding back - anniversaries, unexpected memory jolts.